I didn’t set out to build a resource. I set out to find one.
When things started changing after our baby arrived, my first instinct was to look for answers. Why was he like this? Why had he become someone I didn’t recognise? Why was the man I knew – present, engaged, himself – somewhere else entirely?
I searched the way every exhausted new mother searches. At night, one handed, baby in arms, typing fragments of questions into Google hoping something would come back that made sense of what I was watching.
Nothing did.
What I found were chat rooms full of opinions. Forum threads going nowhere. Articles about maternal postnatal depression that didn’t touch what I was seeing. Generic parenting content that told me to communicate more and sleep when the baby sleeps.
Nothing was written for a mother asking the question I was asking: is he depressed, and what do I do about it?
And nothing existed for him either. No resource he could find himself, read himself, use to understand what was happening inside him and come back from.
So the distance grew. The conversations failed. The denial compounded everything. What should have taken weeks took years. And the whole time I kept thinking: this was unnecessary. If there had been somewhere to go, one place, one resource, something that said yes, this is real, here is what it is, here is what to do – we could have found our way back to each other so much faster.
That gap is what Parents2Be International exists to close.
What We Provide
- A clinically validated assessment using the Gotland Male Depression Scale – the only screening tool designed specifically to detect depression in men, whose symptoms present differently from women.
- A free guide – The 7 Signs – written in two voices: one for the father who doesn’t recognise himself, one for the partner who does.
- A full support guide – The New Father’s Postnatal Code – evidence-based, no-fluff guidance for the 90 days that matter most.
- A self-guided 90-day recovery toolkit – five evidence-based sections, personalised to your answers, with a structured plan, conversation guide, and safety framework built in. Available as a digital PDF or with a professionally printed copy posted to your door and a free full retake at 90 days.
All of it grounded in peer-reviewed research and NHS perinatal mental health training. All of it written from beside the experience, not above it.
Clinical Grounding
The content of this platform is grounded in the same evidence base referenced across all four NHS perinatal mental health training modules, completed in full with 100% scores in April 2026.
NHS perinatal mental health training identifies between 5% and 10% of fathers as affected by perinatal depression. It acknowledges that including fathers in perinatal care is “aspirational within the current context of services.”
Parents2Be International is the structured response to that acknowledged gap. Every resource on this platform – the assessment, the free guides, the toolkit – is built on the clinical evidence that NHS training references and the infrastructure NHS services have not yet delivered.
We are not a clinical service. We are the evidence-based bridge between a family in crisis and the professional support they need.
Who I Am
I am not a clinician. I am not a therapist.
I am a partner who watched paternal postnatal depression happen in real time, found nothing to help me and built what didn’t exist.
My authority comes from proximity. From living it without a roadmap, losing my marriage to it, watching my children carry the weight of something that had a name we didn’t know yet, and spending years finding our way back to each other after the divorce that didn’t have to happen.
We are together now. Stronger than we were. But the road between then and now was long, painful and entirely unnecessary. If either of us had found one resource, one place that said this is what this is, this is what to do – our family would not have fractured the way it did.
I don’t want this for any couple. I don’t want any child to grow up inside the distance that untreated paternal postnatal depression creates. I don’t want any mother to search the way I searched and find nothing. And I don’t want any father to suffer in silence when there is a name for what he’s feeling and a way through it.
That experience made me determined to understand this properly – not just from lived experience but from the evidence base that underpins it. So I trained. All four NHS perinatal mental health training modules, completed with 100% scores. Not to become a clinician. To become confident enough to build something that actually helps, grounded in the same research that shapes NHS practice.
I had to go through it to become the person that can speak with experience. The training gave me the foundation to speak with authority. Together, that is why this exists. Not as a business. As the resource that should have been there when I needed it.
You Are Not Alone
If you are a father who doesn’t recognise himself right now – this was built for you.
If you are a partner watching someone you love disappear into silence – this was built for you too.
You are not alone. And you are in the right place.